Learning to Float: Memoir of a Caregiver-Husband

Learning to Float: Memoir of a Caregiver-HusbandAllan And Deloris Ament S Lives Take A Dramatic Turn When Deloris Suffers A Debilitating Stroke No Longer Equal Partners In Marriage, Allan Becomes Deloris S Primary Caregiver, Responsible For Maintaining Their Household And Her Well Being Learning To Float Describes Allan S Transformation From A Criminal Defense Attorney To A Compassionate, Emotionally Vulnerable Caregiver Drawing On Contemporaneously Written Emails And Private Journal Entries, Ament Unflinchingly Exposes His Emotional, Mental, And Physical Ups And Downs, Consistently Focusing On The Love, Humor, And Opportunities For Personal And Spiritual Growth He Experiences On This Journey Anyone With The Possibility Of Becoming A Caregiver For A Loved One, Now Or In The Future, Will Benefit From The Insights Ament Shares Everyone Will Be Buoyed By The Love Allan And Deloris Share As They Face Their New Normal. Allan Ament wrote this book based on his personal experiences His wife, Deloris had a stroke and Allan made the decision to become her full time caregiver Doing anything else never crossed my mind she was my wife, my soulmate, and she needed my help Of course, I would be there for her I would use my intellect, my rationality to learn and master the skills and knowledge I would need to care for her I would use the love and gratitude as sources of energy to keep me afloat through this journey The title LEARNING TO FLOAT is based on how a leaf acts when it lands in water The leaf does not struggle, it does not try to get away, it floats along wherever the water takes it Sometimes the water is calm and peaceful and sometimes there are Rapids to contend with, but the leaf continues to float Allan s writing is emotionally raw while also being intellectually stimulating He writes with truthfulness and introspection which many memoir authors lack He holds nothing back and readers will love him at times and at times they won t, but at least he is truthful He has not sugar coated his actions or reactions
Reading Learning to float Memoir of a caregiver husband gives a very good look into the differences men have compared to women when put into the situation of having to nurture and care for a loved one Allan Ament became the caregiver of his wife Deloris after she had a stroke Emotionally at times this book is a little hard to take Allan s anger towards Deloris s inabilities after her stroke is difficult to read, since Allan is a retired criminal defense attorney he deserves some slack The book does have humorous parts in it You will get a good laugh now and then Their life completely changed as husband and wife The life they where so comfortable in changed It took Allan a little while to get comfortable in his new role in the marriage He did a good job learning what Deloris needed and what his role was No two strokes are alike so the future is unknown in how much Deloris will progress 700,000 Americans each year suffer a stroke It is the third most common cause of death in the U.S.A after heart attacks and cancer That information is a little disturbing This is a very good book to read It is well written I think that it would be helpful to people in many difficult and stressful situations Not just in the case of a stroke It gave helpful details in how to handle hard and stressful si
Reviewed on behalf of Readers FavoriteLearning to Float by Allan Ament is a beautiful and insightful memoir about the author s experiences as a caregiver to his wife after she experiences a stroke Deloris, Allan s wife of eighteen years, suffered a stroke in 2005 The memoir chronicles the challenges of turning from husband to carer Allan has to learn to adapt to all the changes in his life, as well as the limitations his wife has to deal with Although Deloris recovers moderately well, she is left unable to do many of the things she once did One of the most poignant parts of the memoir was where he heard from a friend that Deloris s brain was reverted to almost a two year old state She had to relearn a lot of things she once did with easy I really loved Mr Ament s writing style He almost has to go on his own journey of self discovery and understanding of his wife s new lifestyle and needs He does
Book Review originally published here to Float is a memoir that focuses on the lives of Allan and Deloris Ament Allan used to be a criminal defense attorney, but after his wife Deloris suffers from a stroke, he becomes her primary caregiver Next to the household chores, he also needs to take care of Deloris In his memoir, he tells of how his wife s illness changed his life and hers, their spiritual growth, the ups and downs, how it brought them even closer, and .Sometimes, the book is hard to read It touches upon tough subjects, like illness, taking care of others and having others depend on you At some point, Allan describes his anger at his wife s illness which is an understandable emotion, but it also shows how much pain he was in at the moment, and it s emotional reading There are a lot of emotional scenes throughout the bo
Learning to Float Memoir of a Caregiver Husband by Allan Ament First I want to say I received this book through a LibraryThings giveaway I really enjoyed this look into the life of a husband who becomes caregiver to his wife who suffered a stroke The account I believe is very open and honest Allan details hi
Allan Ament really can tell it like it is He gives a voice to those who are family caregivers, relating frustrations along with many other emotions that will surely come as they care for loved ones He gives helpful insights that will inspire those in the same situation as well as anyone who finds th
This is achingly beautiful and occasuinally amusing account of a former criminal defense attorney s struggle to help his once articulate, journalist wife deal with the effects of a life altering stroke i found myself comple
Very interesting memoir of a high powered lawyer shifting emotional gears and becoming a full time caregiver for his wife, who suffered a devastating stroke He freely admits the difficulty of the situation, to the point of
Here s a transparent, engaging, and inspiring narrative about one man s experience caring for his wife after she suffers a stroke, a fitting read for anyone who believes in learning and growing through life s chal
Allan Ament gives us a thorough and vulnerable account of what he went through and how his life flipped upside down in an instant.