Spoiler Alert: The Hero Dies: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Other Four-Letter Words

Spoiler Alert: The Hero Dies: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Other Four-Letter Words❴EPUB❵ ✺ Spoiler Alert: The Hero Dies: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Other Four-Letter Words Author Michael Ausiello – Jobs-in-kingston.co.uk ONE OF KIRKUS REVIEWS BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR In this heartbreaking but often surprisingly hilarious memoir People reminiscent of Love Is a Mixtape and Bettyville, a respected TV columnist remembers hi ONE OF KIRKUS REVIEWS BEST books OF THE The Hero eBook ✓ YEAR In this heartbreaking but often surprisingly hilarious memoir People reminiscent of Love Is a Mixtape and Bettyville, a respected TV columnist remembers his late husband, and the lessons, love, and laughter that they shared throughout their fourteen years together As JJ Abrams Spoiler Alert: PDF \ raves, A honest, funny, and insightful book on the subject of loss can be found nowhere For the past decade, TV fans have counted upon Michael Ausiello s insider knowledge to get the scoop on their favorite shows and stars From his time at Soaps in Depth and Entertainment Tonight to his Alert: The Hero PDF/EPUB ë influential stints at TV Guide and Entertainment Weekly to his current role as co founder of the wildly popular website TVLine, Michael has established himself as the go to expert when it comes to our most popular form of entertainmentWhat many of his fans don t know, however, is that while his professional life was in full swing, Michael had to endure the greatest of personal tragedies his longtime boyfriend, Kit Cowan, was diagnosed with a rare and very aggressive form of neuroendocrine cancer Over the course of eleven months, Kit and Michael did their best to combat the deadly disease, but Kit succumbed to his illness in February In this heartbreaking and darkly hilarious memoir, Michael tells the story of his harrowing and challenging last year with Kit while revisiting the thirteen years that preceded it, and how the undeniably powerful bond between him and Kit carried them through all manner of difficulties always with laughter front and center in their relationship Spoiler Alert The Hero Dies is a story about love and loss, joy and heartbreak And in the midst of personal turmoil, we learn that bravery comes in many forms The Washington Post. I d rate this 4.5 stars.It has been said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing multiple times but expecting a different result Did I really believe I could read Michael Ausiello s lovely, bittersweet memoir Spoiler Alert The Hero Dies , a book of which its editor said, You ll cackle you ll sob, and not be a sobbing mess when it was done I mean, I cry watching the car commercial where the little boy gets a dog, and then when he s grown up and goes to college, the dog is old I d rate this 4.5 stars.It has been said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing multiple times but expecting a different result Did I really believe I could read Michael Ausiello s lovely, bittersweet memoir Spoiler Alert The Hero Dies , a book of which its editor said, You ll cackle you ll sob, and not be a sobbing mess when it was done I mean, I cry watching the car commercial where the little boy gets a dog, and then when he s grown up and goes to college, the dog is old Color me insane, I guess Spoiler alert while I didn t sob through the entire book, I was pretty emotional.Michael Ausiello is one of my favorite go to sources for television related gossip and information I ve been following him since he wrote for Entertainment Weekly and TVGuide.com, and am an avid fan of the site he founded, TVLine.com In 2001, when he met Christopher Kit Cowan at a benefit, he was smitten instantaneously, both because of Kit s good looks and the easy banter they quickly fell into Their relationship took off, but like all relationships, dealt with some rough spots along the way Some challenges were common dealing with infidelity, financial independence, Kit s marijuana habit, Michael s emotional insecurities and some were a little less so Michael s, umm, obsession with all things Smurf, and Kit s prodigious collection of sex toys But even through the rough patches, both realized how much happier they were together, and how much they truly were two halves of a whole, along with their long suffering cat, Mister Scooch.In 2014, in the middle of their 13th year together, Kit was diagnosed with a rare, aggressive form of neuroendocrine cancer For Michael, Kit s illness not only brought him face to face with the threat of losing the love of his life, but it reminded him of losing both of his parents to cancer when he was younger But Michael took on the role of Kit s caregiver as fully as he did every interview with a celebrity, every column he wrote, every guest appearance he got to make on a television series.Although the two had eschewed marriage in the past while supporting the right of everyone to marry the person they love , they got married just before Kit s first chemo appointment This allowed Michael to be fully engaged in every aspect of Kit s treatment and care And while Kit faced his bleak prognosis with the same good humor he approached every day, he never seemed to get the upper hand on his cancer, and after a tough battle, he passed away in February 2015.While Spoiler Alert is a chronicle of Kit s fight with cancer, and how he and Michael faced down the disease and the setbacks together, this book isthan just a sad account of a life nearing its end This is also a story of a relationship, a love affair, from start to finish, with the funny and sweet moments, the challenges and the anxieties, and all of the emotion and beauty of two people who truly gave each other their whole heart, their humor, and their love.This certainly was a book that hit me hard emotionally, and made me want to hold my own husband and my own loved ones a little bit closer as soon as I finished reading it Plus I couldn t see while reading the last chapter I was crying so hard But it was also a book that made me laugh, made me recognize myself and my own relationship in certain anecdotes Michael shared, and made me thankful that he was willing to share his relationship with Kit with us, although I m sorry this is why he did.NetGalley and Atria Books provided me an advance copy of the book in exchange for an unbiased review Thanks for making this available See all of my reviews at I m not going to rate this because it would feel wrong to rate such an personal and intense story.It s very well done and well told and HARD. I am not even sure how to review this book I literally just stopped crying from it Like super ugly crying I will be crying for days over this book and for Michael s loss Days This is a story about life And death And love It is a huge story about love The kind of love, even with all the troubles and trials that they had and Kit and Michael had all of those and then some that is what all of us want in our lives The kind of love that makes you want to die when your spouse dies but also I am not even sure how to review this book I literally just stopped crying from it Like super ugly crying I will be crying for days over this book and for Michael s loss Days This is a story about life And death And love It is a huge story about love The kind of love, even with all the troubles and trials that they had and Kit and Michael had all of those and then some that is what all of us want in our lives The kind of love that makes you want to die when your spouse dies but also helps you go on living when they are gone because you just have to I loved every second of this book, even when Kit was dying Which sounds horrible, but Michael made him so alive in this book, I feel like I knew him just a tiny bit and that my life is better because I knew him just a tiny bit And Michael s writing just takes you to every aspect of their lives together And the humor dark as it was holds it all together It was very bizarre to be laughing hysterically while wiping away all the snot from the ugly crying but that is kind of how they lived their life together, so maybe it wasn t that bizarre after all Entertainment reporter Michael Ausiello has enjoyed immense success in his professional life, progressing from writing at a soaps magazine to Entertainment Weekly and TV Guide to his current job as co founder at TVLine.com Ausiello is well known for his snarky and knowledgeable insights about pop culture and TV But while Ausiello s career was taking off, he was going through immense personal anguish the death of his husband, Kit, from neuroendrocrine cancer in early 2015 Ausiello s memoir ca Entertainment reporter Michael Ausiello has enjoyed immense success in his professional life, progressing from writing at a soaps magazine to Entertainment Weekly and TV Guide to his current job as co founder at TVLine.com Ausiello is well known for his snarky and knowledgeable insights about pop culture and TV But while Ausiello s career was taking off, he was going through immense personal anguish the death of his husband, Kit, from neuroendrocrine cancer in early 2015 Ausiello s memoir catalogues meeting Kit, thirteen years before his death, and also describes the heartbreaking journey of losing him to cancer with much of the trademark wit and humor we see in many of his entertainment posts I don t know what possessed me to request this book I love Ausiello, his reporting, and his columns, yes, but how I thought I d come out unscathed from an incredibly sad memoir about a lovely gay man losing his beloved husband to cancer I don t know Sure, parts of this memoir are funny and snarky, but much of it is just heartbreaking and gut wrenching. Good grief There s no real equivalent of reading about a man openly and honestly telling you about losing a great love of his life Ausiello s memoir goes back in forth in time While most of the book focuses on the present day learning about Kit s shocking diagnosis, how that affects couple, and ultimately leading up to his death Still, he also goes back to when the two met, began to date, and fall in love There s a sweetness to reading about young Kit and Mike, for sure The early parts of the memoir very much remind me of reading pieces of someone s journal Some of the beginning parts were a bit of a struggle for me, as you get bogged down in so much detail what they ate, where they went, where they walked, who called who, etc That was a little excruciating at times, but as I said, there was also a sweetness and tenderness to it It just seemed like sometimes there was a little too much oversharing details and moments that weren t necessarily relevant to the overall story A little too much telling versus showing, especially in the first half or so of the book However, as it continues, it either improves or I becameused to the style You become really caught up in Kit and Mike s relationship journey It s painful and sad to read, but there are definitely humorous parts interspersed within as well thank goodness Ausiello appears to be brutally honest in his portrayal of everything the ups and downs of their relationship, the cancer and its toll on Kit and Mike , andWhat we re left with is a heartbreaking, poignant tale, with a reminder to truly live life to the fullest, as you really never know what comes next Overall, despite a slow detailed start, this is a lovely tribute to Mike and Kit s love and life together. It s heartbreaking and touching and a beautiful ode to his husband My heart goes out to Ausiello, but after reading Kit and Mike s story, you ll be left grateful for the time the two had together We should all be so lucky 3.5 stars I received a copy of this novel from the publisher and Netgalley thank you in return for an unbiased review It is available everywhere as of 09 12 2017 Blog Twitter Facebook Google Instagram I don t think I can read this book again.I gave it five stars because it effected me deeply I didn t know Kit Cowan, and I don t know Michael Ausiello Despite that, Ausiello created such a vivid portrait of their relationship that I feel like I did, and by the time in the book that Cowan was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer not a spoiler, obviously , I wept with them I read the book wishing it were fiction instead of non, and sometimes cursing the fact that Ausiello was making me mourn an endin I don t think I can read this book again.I gave it five stars because it effected me deeply I didn t know Kit Cowan, and I don t know Michael Ausiello Despite that, Ausiello created such a vivid portrait of their relationship that I feel like I did, and by the time in the book that Cowan was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer not a spoiler, obviously , I wept with them I read the book wishing it were fiction instead of non, and sometimes cursing the fact that Ausiello was making me mourn an ending that had already happened.I acknowledge that how I feel about this book is colored by the fact that my stepfather died of cancer, and that the timeline was similar to Cowan s In fact, a lot of the book paralleled a lot of my life how my mother championed for my stepfather the way a sort of soulmate ship was solidified in the last year of their relationship because of the cancer Ausiello s obsession with pop culture reflecting my own at one point in the book I thought, This is just like this moment in Grey s Anatomy and in the next paragraph, Ausiello expressed that as well As such, how I feel about this book is deeply personal and somewhat cathartic.However, none of that would have existed if Ausiello were not the talented writer that he is The narrative flows well There s never a time when I wished there wereor less, or that I thought I was missing out on the story It s personal without divulging too much it s heartfelt without being cloying it s self referential without being self pitying It s one of the better memoirs I ve read and despite the fact that I don t think I could ever read it again, I think this is a book I need to own Before I give my opinion on this book, can we all please take a minute to appreciate a great title Honestly, it is what first appealed to me and I think it is brilliant Ok, moment over.Have you ever read a book and thought How the hell am I suppose to review this This is that book for me There are so many emotions and thoughts going through my head, I honestly can not get them straight Michael Ausiello wrecked me This is my first time even hearing of Michael and I m actually glad for it Before I give my opinion on this book, can we all please take a minute to appreciate a great title Honestly, it is what first appealed to me and I think it is brilliant Ok, moment over.Have you ever read a book and thought How the hell am I suppose to review this This is that book for me There are so many emotions and thoughts going through my head, I honestly can not get them straight Michael Ausiello wrecked me This is my first time even hearing of Michael and I m actually glad for it I was able to go into this book with no knowledge of his writing style or personality and I loved it This brutally honest, ridiculously real account of his life with Kit amazed me I was sucked into their life together From the awkward first date to the devestating last breath, I felt it all No tells you exactly what to expect when you re loved one is dying but Michael put it all out there for the world Every Dirty Detail It didn t feel like I was reading his book, it felt like I was reading his diary The dark humor, the heartwarming way Kit and Mike were with each other, the heartbreaking battle with cancer, all of it was there Remarkable My only criticism is the final chapter I m really not sure what to make of it, but it doesn t change my opinion of the book.I received this ARC from Netgalley for my honest reviewbut I will be buying it I will buy it for me, I will buy it for my family, I will buy it for everyone I know that has a loved one going through this fight because even though there isn t a happy ending it is important to have someone to give you a realistic outlook on what to expect Seriously, if you only read one book this year, make it this one I guess I should have known based on the title that this was going to be heartbreaking Ya think But it was also a beautiful story of love and devotion and told with plenty of humor in the voice of the author audible version I loved it Oh and smurfs Lots of smurfs.EDIT I just upped it a star It deserves the whole quintet of shiny awards I think I ll listen again soon And I found a video that Michael made for Kit He s right, Kit was one handsome guy It s a very sweet tribute. How do you review a book that left you sobbing bucketfuls of tears, the sweep of tears that kept hitting you that you hid yourself in the loo to cry another bout and that your tears became so personal that you cried another round for intimate reasons And finally I rounded up the tear saga by sending a message sealing a hug, thanks and love to Michael Ausiello which he acknowledged and replied to.It has been such a sweet intimate book and my first experience of reading on gay love that I actual How do you review a book that left you sobbing bucketfuls of tears, the sweep of tears that kept hitting you that you hid yourself in the loo to cry another bout and that your tears became so personal that you cried another round for intimate reasons And finally I rounded up the tear saga by sending a message sealing a hug, thanks and love to Michael Ausiello which he acknowledged and replied to.It has been such a sweet intimate book and my first experience of reading on gay love that I actually felt it so normal I ended up feeling that I won t have any rancour if either of my sons were to turn out in pink colour That s the power of books..they impact your thought process so subtly and yet intensely.Love is love, in any colour or orientation It empowers us to transcend our capacity to give Mike was such a caregiver to the cancer ridden Kit and his capacity to love haunts us It transmits to us as well It, being a true memoir, I can say Kit was one hell of a lucky guy to go from this world surrounded by so much love and empathy He went away with every corner and space in his heart and soul suffused with enormous love and compassion The book reads beautifully, with doses of dark humour, laughter, beautiful private moments shared by two men in love with each other Glad to have peeped into that life too close to home to finish Sometimes a book seems to have an easy comparison For example, I read Anna Kendrick and Lauren Graham s memoirs close to each other and those seemed in the same lane smart, funny, actresses and their experiences In this case, Ausiello s book can be put up against Dave Holmes memoir Party of One Both are or were entertainment writers, both are vaguely celebrities in their own right but spend a lot of time with thefamous, both write about coming out and being gay in the entertainme Sometimes a book seems to have an easy comparison For example, I read Anna Kendrick and Lauren Graham s memoirs close to each other and those seemed in the same lane smart, funny, actresses and their experiences In this case, Ausiello s book can be put up against Dave Holmes memoir Party of One Both are or were entertainment writers, both are vaguely celebrities in their own right but spend a lot of time with thefamous, both write about coming out and being gay in the entertainment industry They are not perfect comparisons, of course, as Ausiello s book is ostensibly about his partner, Kit s, untimely death of cancer Nevertheless, spoiler alert I think Holmes book is much better written andworth the time Given the subject matter, it is important to say that Ausiello s love for his husband is palpable throughout the book However, like many memoirs, it suffers from a telling and not showing problem Nearly every page, it seems, the couple are telling each other they love each other, but we rarely see any evidence of that love until Ausiello cares patiently and lovingly for him as he becomesandill All of this is moving Prior to that, love is largely described as a physical connection only Snuggling like puzzle pieces or struggling over sex However, as is often the case with a memoir, I was left wondering so what I don t know either of these folks, so why does their particular story matter to me Ausiello s writing is breezy, as befits his regular gig, so this is not a book crafted of finely wrought sentences Given that, in a memoir I m looking for a point of connection or a larger insight into the world There are lots of interesting roads he starts down what s with the Smurfs His answer is facile What does he want to say about dealing with body dysmorphia while surrounding himself in looks obsessed celebrity culture There seemedthere Why oh why, did he and Kit choose to fight it out all those long years when they often seemed so miserable And it often seems that the writing confuses oversharing with honesty It s pretty misogynistic to throw the word c nt around so happily It s ableist and gross to use the phrase morning tourettes, equating a life shaping disability with an inability to not be an asshole in the morning Details of a sex life are just over sharing unless there s a larger purpose for sharing them see larger discussion of body dysmorphia that the author wants to dig into but doesn t and or discussions of monogamy vs alternate arrangements that never come up Just sharing all your dirty laundry is unnecessary unless it s to a larger point I do not think this book ever rises to the level of introspection needed for that larger point It is hard to review a memoir because it s someone s representation of their life, after all, and in this case a clear attempt to keep something of his husband s memory alive But everyone has a story to tell and everyone s life experiences are important to them If you want a wider audience for your memories, you need to help that audience find a way in or to see the world in a new way For this reason, of the two books I d recommend Holmes , which is better written and actively seeks out those connections

Spoiler Alert: The Hero Dies: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and
    Spoiler Alert: The Hero Dies: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and professional life was in full swing, Michael had to endure the greatest of personal tragedies his longtime boyfriend, Kit Cowan, was diagnosed with a rare and very aggressive form of neuroendocrine cancer Over the course of eleven months, Kit and Michael did their best to combat the deadly disease, but Kit succumbed to his illness in February In this heartbreaking and darkly hilarious memoir, Michael tells the story of his harrowing and challenging last year with Kit while revisiting the thirteen years that preceded it, and how the undeniably powerful bond between him and Kit carried them through all manner of difficulties always with laughter front and center in their relationship Spoiler Alert The Hero Dies is a story about love and loss, joy and heartbreak And in the midst of personal turmoil, we learn that bravery comes in many forms The Washington Post. I d rate this 4.5 stars.It has been said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing multiple times but expecting a different result Did I really believe I could read Michael Ausiello s lovely, bittersweet memoir Spoiler Alert The Hero Dies , a book of which its editor said, You ll cackle you ll sob, and not be a sobbing mess when it was done I mean, I cry watching the car commercial where the little boy gets a dog, and then when he s grown up and goes to college, the dog is old I d rate this 4.5 stars.It has been said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing multiple times but expecting a different result Did I really believe I could read Michael Ausiello s lovely, bittersweet memoir Spoiler Alert The Hero Dies , a book of which its editor said, You ll cackle you ll sob, and not be a sobbing mess when it was done I mean, I cry watching the car commercial where the little boy gets a dog, and then when he s grown up and goes to college, the dog is old Color me insane, I guess Spoiler alert while I didn t sob through the entire book, I was pretty emotional.Michael Ausiello is one of my favorite go to sources for television related gossip and information I ve been following him since he wrote for Entertainment Weekly and TVGuide.com, and am an avid fan of the site he founded, TVLine.com In 2001, when he met Christopher Kit Cowan at a benefit, he was smitten instantaneously, both because of Kit s good looks and the easy banter they quickly fell into Their relationship took off, but like all relationships, dealt with some rough spots along the way Some challenges were common dealing with infidelity, financial independence, Kit s marijuana habit, Michael s emotional insecurities and some were a little less so Michael s, umm, obsession with all things Smurf, and Kit s prodigious collection of sex toys But even through the rough patches, both realized how much happier they were together, and how much they truly were two halves of a whole, along with their long suffering cat, Mister Scooch.In 2014, in the middle of their 13th year together, Kit was diagnosed with a rare, aggressive form of neuroendocrine cancer For Michael, Kit s illness not only brought him face to face with the threat of losing the love of his life, but it reminded him of losing both of his parents to cancer when he was younger But Michael took on the role of Kit s caregiver as fully as he did every interview with a celebrity, every column he wrote, every guest appearance he got to make on a television series.Although the two had eschewed marriage in the past while supporting the right of everyone to marry the person they love , they got married just before Kit s first chemo appointment This allowed Michael to be fully engaged in every aspect of Kit s treatment and care And while Kit faced his bleak prognosis with the same good humor he approached every day, he never seemed to get the upper hand on his cancer, and after a tough battle, he passed away in February 2015.While Spoiler Alert is a chronicle of Kit s fight with cancer, and how he and Michael faced down the disease and the setbacks together, this book isthan just a sad account of a life nearing its end This is also a story of a relationship, a love affair, from start to finish, with the funny and sweet moments, the challenges and the anxieties, and all of the emotion and beauty of two people who truly gave each other their whole heart, their humor, and their love.This certainly was a book that hit me hard emotionally, and made me want to hold my own husband and my own loved ones a little bit closer as soon as I finished reading it Plus I couldn t see while reading the last chapter I was crying so hard But it was also a book that made me laugh, made me recognize myself and my own relationship in certain anecdotes Michael shared, and made me thankful that he was willing to share his relationship with Kit with us, although I m sorry this is why he did.NetGalley and Atria Books provided me an advance copy of the book in exchange for an unbiased review Thanks for making this available See all of my reviews at I m not going to rate this because it would feel wrong to rate such an personal and intense story.It s very well done and well told and HARD. I am not even sure how to review this book I literally just stopped crying from it Like super ugly crying I will be crying for days over this book and for Michael s loss Days This is a story about life And death And love It is a huge story about love The kind of love, even with all the troubles and trials that they had and Kit and Michael had all of those and then some that is what all of us want in our lives The kind of love that makes you want to die when your spouse dies but also I am not even sure how to review this book I literally just stopped crying from it Like super ugly crying I will be crying for days over this book and for Michael s loss Days This is a story about life And death And love It is a huge story about love The kind of love, even with all the troubles and trials that they had and Kit and Michael had all of those and then some that is what all of us want in our lives The kind of love that makes you want to die when your spouse dies but also helps you go on living when they are gone because you just have to I loved every second of this book, even when Kit was dying Which sounds horrible, but Michael made him so alive in this book, I feel like I knew him just a tiny bit and that my life is better because I knew him just a tiny bit And Michael s writing just takes you to every aspect of their lives together And the humor dark as it was holds it all together It was very bizarre to be laughing hysterically while wiping away all the snot from the ugly crying but that is kind of how they lived their life together, so maybe it wasn t that bizarre after all Entertainment reporter Michael Ausiello has enjoyed immense success in his professional life, progressing from writing at a soaps magazine to Entertainment Weekly and TV Guide to his current job as co founder at TVLine.com Ausiello is well known for his snarky and knowledgeable insights about pop culture and TV But while Ausiello s career was taking off, he was going through immense personal anguish the death of his husband, Kit, from neuroendrocrine cancer in early 2015 Ausiello s memoir ca Entertainment reporter Michael Ausiello has enjoyed immense success in his professional life, progressing from writing at a soaps magazine to Entertainment Weekly and TV Guide to his current job as co founder at TVLine.com Ausiello is well known for his snarky and knowledgeable insights about pop culture and TV But while Ausiello s career was taking off, he was going through immense personal anguish the death of his husband, Kit, from neuroendrocrine cancer in early 2015 Ausiello s memoir catalogues meeting Kit, thirteen years before his death, and also describes the heartbreaking journey of losing him to cancer with much of the trademark wit and humor we see in many of his entertainment posts I don t know what possessed me to request this book I love Ausiello, his reporting, and his columns, yes, but how I thought I d come out unscathed from an incredibly sad memoir about a lovely gay man losing his beloved husband to cancer I don t know Sure, parts of this memoir are funny and snarky, but much of it is just heartbreaking and gut wrenching. Good grief There s no real equivalent of reading about a man openly and honestly telling you about losing a great love of his life Ausiello s memoir goes back in forth in time While most of the book focuses on the present day learning about Kit s shocking diagnosis, how that affects couple, and ultimately leading up to his death Still, he also goes back to when the two met, began to date, and fall in love There s a sweetness to reading about young Kit and Mike, for sure The early parts of the memoir very much remind me of reading pieces of someone s journal Some of the beginning parts were a bit of a struggle for me, as you get bogged down in so much detail what they ate, where they went, where they walked, who called who, etc That was a little excruciating at times, but as I said, there was also a sweetness and tenderness to it It just seemed like sometimes there was a little too much oversharing details and moments that weren t necessarily relevant to the overall story A little too much telling versus showing, especially in the first half or so of the book However, as it continues, it either improves or I becameused to the style You become really caught up in Kit and Mike s relationship journey It s painful and sad to read, but there are definitely humorous parts interspersed within as well thank goodness Ausiello appears to be brutally honest in his portrayal of everything the ups and downs of their relationship, the cancer and its toll on Kit and Mike , andWhat we re left with is a heartbreaking, poignant tale, with a reminder to truly live life to the fullest, as you really never know what comes next Overall, despite a slow detailed start, this is a lovely tribute to Mike and Kit s love and life together. It s heartbreaking and touching and a beautiful ode to his husband My heart goes out to Ausiello, but after reading Kit and Mike s story, you ll be left grateful for the time the two had together We should all be so lucky 3.5 stars I received a copy of this novel from the publisher and Netgalley thank you in return for an unbiased review It is available everywhere as of 09 12 2017 Blog Twitter Facebook Google Instagram I don t think I can read this book again.I gave it five stars because it effected me deeply I didn t know Kit Cowan, and I don t know Michael Ausiello Despite that, Ausiello created such a vivid portrait of their relationship that I feel like I did, and by the time in the book that Cowan was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer not a spoiler, obviously , I wept with them I read the book wishing it were fiction instead of non, and sometimes cursing the fact that Ausiello was making me mourn an endin I don t think I can read this book again.I gave it five stars because it effected me deeply I didn t know Kit Cowan, and I don t know Michael Ausiello Despite that, Ausiello created such a vivid portrait of their relationship that I feel like I did, and by the time in the book that Cowan was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer not a spoiler, obviously , I wept with them I read the book wishing it were fiction instead of non, and sometimes cursing the fact that Ausiello was making me mourn an ending that had already happened.I acknowledge that how I feel about this book is colored by the fact that my stepfather died of cancer, and that the timeline was similar to Cowan s In fact, a lot of the book paralleled a lot of my life how my mother championed for my stepfather the way a sort of soulmate ship was solidified in the last year of their relationship because of the cancer Ausiello s obsession with pop culture reflecting my own at one point in the book I thought, This is just like this moment in Grey s Anatomy and in the next paragraph, Ausiello expressed that as well As such, how I feel about this book is deeply personal and somewhat cathartic.However, none of that would have existed if Ausiello were not the talented writer that he is The narrative flows well There s never a time when I wished there wereor less, or that I thought I was missing out on the story It s personal without divulging too much it s heartfelt without being cloying it s self referential without being self pitying It s one of the better memoirs I ve read and despite the fact that I don t think I could ever read it again, I think this is a book I need to own Before I give my opinion on this book, can we all please take a minute to appreciate a great title Honestly, it is what first appealed to me and I think it is brilliant Ok, moment over.Have you ever read a book and thought How the hell am I suppose to review this This is that book for me There are so many emotions and thoughts going through my head, I honestly can not get them straight Michael Ausiello wrecked me This is my first time even hearing of Michael and I m actually glad for it Before I give my opinion on this book, can we all please take a minute to appreciate a great title Honestly, it is what first appealed to me and I think it is brilliant Ok, moment over.Have you ever read a book and thought How the hell am I suppose to review this This is that book for me There are so many emotions and thoughts going through my head, I honestly can not get them straight Michael Ausiello wrecked me This is my first time even hearing of Michael and I m actually glad for it I was able to go into this book with no knowledge of his writing style or personality and I loved it This brutally honest, ridiculously real account of his life with Kit amazed me I was sucked into their life together From the awkward first date to the devestating last breath, I felt it all No tells you exactly what to expect when you re loved one is dying but Michael put it all out there for the world Every Dirty Detail It didn t feel like I was reading his book, it felt like I was reading his diary The dark humor, the heartwarming way Kit and Mike were with each other, the heartbreaking battle with cancer, all of it was there Remarkable My only criticism is the final chapter I m really not sure what to make of it, but it doesn t change my opinion of the book.I received this ARC from Netgalley for my honest reviewbut I will be buying it I will buy it for me, I will buy it for my family, I will buy it for everyone I know that has a loved one going through this fight because even though there isn t a happy ending it is important to have someone to give you a realistic outlook on what to expect Seriously, if you only read one book this year, make it this one I guess I should have known based on the title that this was going to be heartbreaking Ya think But it was also a beautiful story of love and devotion and told with plenty of humor in the voice of the author audible version I loved it Oh and smurfs Lots of smurfs.EDIT I just upped it a star It deserves the whole quintet of shiny awards I think I ll listen again soon And I found a video that Michael made for Kit He s right, Kit was one handsome guy It s a very sweet tribute. How do you review a book that left you sobbing bucketfuls of tears, the sweep of tears that kept hitting you that you hid yourself in the loo to cry another bout and that your tears became so personal that you cried another round for intimate reasons And finally I rounded up the tear saga by sending a message sealing a hug, thanks and love to Michael Ausiello which he acknowledged and replied to.It has been such a sweet intimate book and my first experience of reading on gay love that I actual How do you review a book that left you sobbing bucketfuls of tears, the sweep of tears that kept hitting you that you hid yourself in the loo to cry another bout and that your tears became so personal that you cried another round for intimate reasons And finally I rounded up the tear saga by sending a message sealing a hug, thanks and love to Michael Ausiello which he acknowledged and replied to.It has been such a sweet intimate book and my first experience of reading on gay love that I actually felt it so normal I ended up feeling that I won t have any rancour if either of my sons were to turn out in pink colour That s the power of books..they impact your thought process so subtly and yet intensely.Love is love, in any colour or orientation It empowers us to transcend our capacity to give Mike was such a caregiver to the cancer ridden Kit and his capacity to love haunts us It transmits to us as well It, being a true memoir, I can say Kit was one hell of a lucky guy to go from this world surrounded by so much love and empathy He went away with every corner and space in his heart and soul suffused with enormous love and compassion The book reads beautifully, with doses of dark humour, laughter, beautiful private moments shared by two men in love with each other Glad to have peeped into that life too close to home to finish Sometimes a book seems to have an easy comparison For example, I read Anna Kendrick and Lauren Graham s memoirs close to each other and those seemed in the same lane smart, funny, actresses and their experiences In this case, Ausiello s book can be put up against Dave Holmes memoir Party of One Both are or were entertainment writers, both are vaguely celebrities in their own right but spend a lot of time with thefamous, both write about coming out and being gay in the entertainme Sometimes a book seems to have an easy comparison For example, I read Anna Kendrick and Lauren Graham s memoirs close to each other and those seemed in the same lane smart, funny, actresses and their experiences In this case, Ausiello s book can be put up against Dave Holmes memoir Party of One Both are or were entertainment writers, both are vaguely celebrities in their own right but spend a lot of time with thefamous, both write about coming out and being gay in the entertainment industry They are not perfect comparisons, of course, as Ausiello s book is ostensibly about his partner, Kit s, untimely death of cancer Nevertheless, spoiler alert I think Holmes book is much better written andworth the time Given the subject matter, it is important to say that Ausiello s love for his husband is palpable throughout the book However, like many memoirs, it suffers from a telling and not showing problem Nearly every page, it seems, the couple are telling each other they love each other, but we rarely see any evidence of that love until Ausiello cares patiently and lovingly for him as he becomesandill All of this is moving Prior to that, love is largely described as a physical connection only Snuggling like puzzle pieces or struggling over sex However, as is often the case with a memoir, I was left wondering so what I don t know either of these folks, so why does their particular story matter to me Ausiello s writing is breezy, as befits his regular gig, so this is not a book crafted of finely wrought sentences Given that, in a memoir I m looking for a point of connection or a larger insight into the world There are lots of interesting roads he starts down what s with the Smurfs His answer is facile What does he want to say about dealing with body dysmorphia while surrounding himself in looks obsessed celebrity culture There seemedthere Why oh why, did he and Kit choose to fight it out all those long years when they often seemed so miserable And it often seems that the writing confuses oversharing with honesty It s pretty misogynistic to throw the word c nt around so happily It s ableist and gross to use the phrase morning tourettes, equating a life shaping disability with an inability to not be an asshole in the morning Details of a sex life are just over sharing unless there s a larger purpose for sharing them see larger discussion of body dysmorphia that the author wants to dig into but doesn t and or discussions of monogamy vs alternate arrangements that never come up Just sharing all your dirty laundry is unnecessary unless it s to a larger point I do not think this book ever rises to the level of introspection needed for that larger point It is hard to review a memoir because it s someone s representation of their life, after all, and in this case a clear attempt to keep something of his husband s memory alive But everyone has a story to tell and everyone s life experiences are important to them If you want a wider audience for your memories, you need to help that audience find a way in or to see the world in a new way For this reason, of the two books I d recommend Holmes , which is better written and actively seeks out those connections "/>
  • Paperback
  • 320 pages
  • Spoiler Alert: The Hero Dies: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Other Four-Letter Words
  • Michael Ausiello
  • 10 February 2019
  • 1501134973